Wednesday, September 30, 2009

The joys of having children

means you pick up their illnesses when they have them.

Well, maybe. I do have a tendency to get sick this time of year anyway, so it COULD just be a coincidence, but Ryan has a cold, my Mom has a cold and I am starting to get one. Suckage.

Then, two nights ago, overnight, he coughed like two times and that was the only peep I heard from him from about 7pm until 6:30am. Last night, he was crying a bit at 10:30 and then again at 3:30 and 4:30 and then really going at 5:15. But, nook in his mouth now, he's quiet. So, here I am, waiting for him to decide that he's really hungry and not just needing something to suck on, like the nook.

Oh well, at least the cats are fed. I will be super tired today, however. Not fun.

I saw a super cool idea last night on one of my cloth diaper blogs that I read. Someone took a picture EVERY DAY of their baby for one year. "A Year of *insert baby name here*" it was called (I can't remember the baby's name right now). They put the baby in the crib or on a bed (it was just a plain sheet) and printed out the date -- they must have just printed out the numbers 0-9 and the 12 months and interchanged those. I wish I would have seen that sooner. A totally sweet idea.

So, it's annual enrollment time down at ol' Fidelity. I need to pick what medical plan we are going to use this year. The current one we have is going up $47.81 a paycheck (that's almost $100 a month, if you're playing a long at home). I current pay $243.90 a paycheck, so you do the math. So, I could drop back to the next level, which would save us $4300 over the next year, but we would have to pay more out of pocket that the plan we have now. And we could use that money to pay for his one day of daycare instead of having it be an extra expense like it is now. But, I get nervous. And I would like to have another baby soon. Like, get pregnant again next year. Those appointments aren't "preventative medicine", those are maternity related, which means that we're paying for them until the deductible is hit and then we're paying 20%. Even if we would have the baby in 2011 and I could change insurance types again, would that be more than $4300 in savings? I really have a lot of math to do here.

Jake, of course, just wants to hear the bottom line, even though he always says to me "we can talk about this". As long as it's not money related. I'm a bit concerned with the money stuff. I don't think that paying $500 on one card a month is viable anymore. Which really sucks. Maybe $500 all together. There's more math that I need to do there too.

Maybe I'll just work less today and do my calculations. I also wanted to take a longer lunch and run to Kohl's. I've got 30% off and $10 Kohl's cash. I want to try to find Ryan a winter coat that he can wear all this winter. 12 month coat, here I come!

Saturday, September 26, 2009

4 (and a half) month checkup

It was yesterday. He did pretty well. He's getting to be a calmer baby -- much calmer. Right now, he's sitting in his rocker chair thingy, playing with a stuffed Pooh bear and rubbing his feet together.

He was 15 pounds, 12 ounces and 25 1/4 inches long. He grew an inch and a quarter in a month and a half. That's a lot of growing. I measured him at 3 months, since he didn't have a doc appt and he was 24 inches then. He did really, really well with the shots this time. I was proud of him.

He had his second week of daycare yesterday too. I was less pleased with them. They must have told the morning baby teacher that I come before 7:15, because she was there already when I showed up. She was a very grandma-type. So, that was nice. But, I told her I was going to pick him up at 2:45. I was a little bit late, but right as I walked in, she was laying him down for a nap -- WHY DIDN'T SHE DO IT SOONER!!!! So, I was a little frustrated by that, because then he missed a nap. So, he's been a tired baby since then.

Plus, he had a cold and probably doesn't feel that great to start with.

Oh well. Poor little Ryan.

But, he's going to start more rice cereal for solids and then by 5 months, we can start to try veggies and once he's into the veggies, onto fruits. So, Jake and Mom will have to start to try those during the day. Which means that I should sew the cushions for the high chair, so he's got a nice place to sit. It's really cute Sesame Street flannel that I found at Hobby Lobby. It's pretty sweet.

Anyway, off to make the baby sleep again. he needs his beauty rest.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

So...summer?

That's okay Mother Nature. We didn't really need summer anyway. That week of 90 degree weather in August was good enough.

Putting long sleeves and pants on my child in July because the high was 60 was okay too, I guess.

Whatev, I say.

We passed four months last weekend. The sleeping continues -- there are good nights and bad nights, but that's okay. It's a process, learning how to sleep. The napping process continues as well. he's getting better in the mornings, but the early and late afternoon naps continue to be 30 mins, which means that between 5 and 6pm, he needs another 30 minute nap. And that's okay.

I will say that the sleep deprivation of having a new baby kind of makes you forget exactly how bad you felt. I mean, the two night before last, I got more than 4 hours of sleep in a row for the first time in four months. Do I really have a memory of all that waking up at night, etc, etc? Not really.

I'm thinking of maybe trying to convince Jake to try to have a 10-10-10 baby (which, of course, means January 2010), but other than that, there's no rush. And 1-1-11 or 11-11-11 baby would be sweet too. Or 12-12-12. Then, we're all out of sweet dates until 2-2-22 or 2-22-22. 3-3-33, 4-4-44. 5-5-55, etc. You get the point. "Magic Calendar Days" my HS Latin teacher used to call them.

Work is going ok. The deal that merges my company and another Milwaukee based company Metavante closes Oct. 1. Then come the layoffs. I don't think that I'm really in danger of being laid off, but I'm worried about all of us.

I got a new laptop yesterday, for my birthday next month. Jake lets me use things right away. It's an MSI Wind Netbook and the best part is that it's PINK!!! woot. It's really nice. I'll miss the apple lappy, but this is good too.

Well, Ryan is taking his morning nap, so I should take a shower before he decides to make it 30 mins, instead of the 2 hours that need probably needs.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Will I EVER learn?

So, the instant I mention something about Ryan sleeping through the night, guess what? he stops.

I am hoping it was just a one time set back. He was kind of fussing last night and Jake has this idea that his squacking a bit equals him FREAKING out. That is NOT freaking out. His making goat noises is him freaking out.

So, I went and put the nook is his mouth and rolled his sleeves down and then he freaked out. Also, i was VERY tired and was PIST at Jake for forcing me to get up, when Ryan probably would have gone back to sleep on his own. So, the monitor will be quieter tonight, so Jake can't hear it but I can.

Then, I can make up my own mind about getting up.

However, I am SUPER tired, so I will probably get going to bed shortly.

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

My Sister-in-law's Big Fat Christian Wedding...and the rest of the weekend

This is RUL long...you've been warned.

Well, the wedding weekend has come and gone. And, as always, all of my frustrations leading up to it melted away when we were there, because I was pretty much the only sane person in the car on Friday night, between the rehearsal and the dinner.

Let's re-cap, up to that point.

Thursday -- I was off. I took off because I felt so yucky at the beginning of the week that I couldn't get much done. So, I cleaned up and packed and ran errands, etc. etc. I also took Ryan up to work again, so he could see people and I could drop off the treats I said I would bring for the food day. Once he ate, he was not so fussy and let people hold him. Before that...look out!

Thursday night, Grandpa watched Ryan while Grandma and I went for mani/pedi's. It was good. I got red toes and pink french manicure. They looked good.

Friday -- got up at 6am to finish getting ready (I had several loads of laundry left to do) and finished packing. We were ready to hit the road at 10am, which was excellent. We are usually running horribly late and it drives Jake insane. Drove to Chicago and made it there before noon. It was really easy. The room in the hotel was not ready when we got there, so we had to wait. We went and got lunch with Jake's Dad and hung out in their room for a bit. Ryan hit his breaking point right about the time that the room was FINALLY ready (an hour and a half after we got there -- thank you Hampton Inn for putting us in a room that was occupied before we got it) and we quick had to set up the pack-n-play so he could take a nap. He was better after a nap. I got ready for the rehearsal and dinner and we left Ryan with my parents (they were bringing him to the dinner later). I wish he were more like Jameson and could just sleep whenever and chill. He's so high maintenance.

end re-cap.

So, we drove to the rehearsal with Jack and Betsy (Jake's parents, for those of you keeping score at home). We left the rehearsal at 5:45 to drive the 10 mins to the dinner at Giordano's. Josh and Kristine and Jameson followed in their car. Somehow, we had the wrong one (there are many) and we couldn't get the bride or the groom to answer their fracking phones to figure out where we were supposed to be. And the wrong Giordano's has TWO (TWO!) addresses, so when we entered the next address, it took us in a circle. So, we tried to go back to the hotel and tempers were flaring at this point. The bride and groom still did not answer their cell phones. We were driving somewhere (I don't even remember where we were going at that point) and VERY suddenly, Jack pulled off the road we were on, leaving Josh in the dust. And it took them a while to get turned around and back to us. I took this opportunity to figure out where the hell we were supposed to be going. I called the place we had been at and then asked them where "the one up the road" was (in Oak Brook. we were in Westchester.) I called that one to make sure the dinner was ACTUALLY there. Got the address -- the TOMTOM wouldn't take the complete address and so our destination ended up being the bridge over 294, right by the hotel. So, we went back to the hotel (by now, everyone was really irritated, including me) and FINALLY someone noticed that the bride's ENTIRE family hadn't arrived yet. It was around 6:30 at this point. So, I talked to the groom and said, we're at the hotel, just tell me which way we turn out of the hotel lot.

So, in the end, the directions for the place we were supposed to be at were: Go back to the hotel, go past the hotel on 22nd St, until you get to the place.

I'm still not sure what happened, but I was really irritated that nobody noticed we weren't there by 6:10 and it took another 15 mins to get a call back. Who doesn't notice that the bride's parents are missing at 6:05?

Anyway.

The rehearsal dinner was good. Ryan was fussy and hot in his car seat. Then, he ate and was better. Then, he pooped a bit (and he hadn't pooped in 4 days by Friday), but didn't finish and was still a fuss. We went back to the hotel and he went to sleep. I went to sleep and Jake went out with the guys for the bachelor party.

Saturday:

This is where the big news of the week comes in: RYAN SLEEPS THROUGH THE NIGHT NOW!!!!

He picked a hotel in the middle of Chicago to start sleeping through the night. I thought that he was going to wake up, but he just fussed a bit, took the nook and kept on sleeping. I, of course, could not sleep, for the fear that the instant I did, he would wake up. He slept from 9pm to 6:15am. Jameson on the other hand (poor Josh and Kristine) decided not to sleep until 12 and woke up at 6.

I got up with him a little before 7 and took him in the lobby. J&K were in the lobby getting coffee, all dressed and ready for the day already. I sat there and found a little bit to eat and they started asking me if I was going to breakfast. I said yes. They said to me that it was in 3 minutes. I said, what do you mean -- breakfast is at 8. Basically, they changed it to 7 and I missed it. So, I threw on clothes, left the baby with Jake and went to eat. I had the same breakfast as Brooke -- giant berry pancakes. This would prove to be a mistake later in the day. Breakfast was good, but I was tired and in need of caffeine.
So, I got back, found out what was going on with hair and took a shower. Then, I got my hair done and half way changed my clothes. My hair was really cute and it was off my neck, which made me happy. I barely saw Ryan or my parents or anyone that day though. That sucked. We went to church and got dressed, did pictures, watched Brooke get married. Afterward, Kit told me that he saw me laughing up there. In point of fact, I was either smiling at him, so he would feel better or I was grimacing because my feet were killing me. I was only slightly insulted.

Ryan was CRAZY fussy during the ceremony and the rest of the day. Jake had to stick a bottle in his mouth until right before a picture, otherwise, he was crying. By 7pm, he had had enough and my parents took him back to the hotel, since we couldn't leave. But, by 9pm, we were back, because the reception ended about 8:30. The food was good, the cake was okay and I didn't dance, which I am ALWAYS okay with.

But, Ryan was asleep by 9pm again and didn't really wake up until almost 7. It was good. We got up, had breakfast, got dressed, packed everything up and hung out a bit. Then, we said good-bye, as I wanted to stop at teh Carter's outlet in Kenosha (BTW, just go to Johnson Creek. PP is ridic.) and we had to pick Maggie (YES!) up at 1pm at Mitchell Airport. So, the exit for the outlet mall in PP is ridiculous, as was the mall. But, Jake's mom gave us $100 GC, so I spent about half of it on some winter clothes for Ryan. We got McD's for lunch and then found out that Maggie landed about 20 mins early. I don't think she was waiting too long, but we rolled up and had her hop in the car.

I was SO happy that she came up here to see us. I had a really good time and I miss her to death. Sister from another mother. Yakkers hung out with us on Sunday night -- we made food and watched Grandma's Boy. Yakkers went home about 8 and that was right about when Ryan went to sleep. They played Bubble Bobble on Wii and I played Zookeeper on her DS. I went to bed about 10 and they not long after.

On Monday, we lazed around a bit and then went to the baseball game. The crew lost and there was some jackass from Chicago wearing a Cardinals t-shirt who was yelling stuff and generally being belligerent. He was SUCH a jerk. He had served overseas too and I guess that makes it okay to be a stupid idiot. I will let Jill know that when she gets back. Ryan stayed with my parents and ended up taking a two hour nap at their house. WOW! Then, we went shopping and he fell asleep again in the mall. I got two shirts for $30 at Express and a bra and undies for $26 at VS. Good shopping for me! :) We made more food and watched Beerfest when we got back and then it was bed time for me.

Jake took Maggie back to the airport on Tuesday morning. I wish that we could move down there. I really do. I don't care about being here at all. Seriously. If Jake hadn't gotten any job when we left RF, I would have considered it VERY much. Heck, I consider it all the time.

So, there it is. I don't have many pictures, because I was busy with wedding or Ryan. Too bad. I love to take pictures.

Ryan has continued to sleep through the night since Friday. Which is AWESOME!! I love it!

Bring on fall. It's almost here.

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

Daycare for the little boy

So, I went and toured a daycare today and I really liked it. It was on the block that my aunt and uncle used to live on and next door to the old folks home that my grandparents lived until they passed away. It's a quiet little neighborhood, which I really liked. I saw a mom coming out and asked her if she liked it -- she had both her kids there, so I took that as a good sign.

It's a bit pricey, but it is Milwaukee and I think that being in a group setting would be good for Ryan -- get some interaction with other kids. For one day a week, I think it would be ok. Now, we just have to come up with the monies to start him there, I think.

I should probably look at other places, but I am unenthusiastic about the whole search and this one is pretty much right on the way to work for either of us. Jake could drop him off and I could pick him up...Plus, it was very nice. It was clean and they have lots of activities for the kids to do. I met with one of the infant room teachers, and she was really nice.

I have off now until Tuesday. Tomorrow, I need to get all the laundry done, start packing, make my s'more bars for work, go up to work for an hour or so, clean up the house and get the "bedroom" upstairs ready for Maggie and get my nails done for the wedding this weekend.

Hopefully, Ryan will take good naps for me tomorrow. I will probably be up at my normal time and just get going right away. I should be doing some of this stuff right now. Maybe I will go straighten up the upstairs tonight and then that will be done. Ryan is already sleeping for the night, so I don't need to worry about him until, like, 2am.

Okay, here I go...